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I'm new to this thread, but I guess I got quite a guy dilemma. Let’s just call him GUY...

First let me say that he's like family..to everyone..(I never saw him like a brother) and he’s 9 years older than me. He's 27...turning 28 in December...and I just turned 19 in August...So he's been in my life since i was 8years old. GUY is also an ex-con...he's been in jail for arson and for drug possesion. So he's been in and out of jail a couple of times...<-- (Any of that has never really been an issue for me.) This past time he took the blame for my brother.

This kind of started with a hate friendship...I never talked to him nice and without my "attitude." I didn't really ever feel anything for him until 3 years ago...but now recently all i do is think of him...WHERE IS HE AT? WHY HASN'T HE COME BY? I LOVE THE WAY HE CARRIES HIMSELF. I don't want anything to grow between us two. I don't want anymore of these "feelings" to grow because I know how he is with girls. He's gonna always have the mother of his 2 kids (which by the way, she gave up her rights to the state), he has two girls (that I know of) on the side of any relationship he may have. ::THINK "TONY SOPRANO":: I know that he's just not right...because he'll never change his ways of being a ladies man.

He used to live here at my house for a good 3 years total. So I see him almost everyday and I can't help but notice his smile, his bald head, I can't help but notice him. Up until like 2 weeks ago I started feeling jealous when I hear that he's out with any of his girls. It's not this scary jealousy I get...but I do get somewhat jealous...I don't know if it's because I secretly DO want something to happen between us. And I think that I have no right to be getting jealous and mad when I hear that he's with a girl because HE'S NOT MINE...He's been a friend when i've neeeded him, he's taken care of me, he respects and takes care of my mom, and i've trusted him with my most prized possesion.

I have felt the urge to just tell him how I think I might feel for him, but I don't want to ruin the little bit of friendship that we have. We have had our times of flirtations going on and we both have wanted to impress each other at one point or another. So I wonder if there might be a possibility that we do feel the same. I am also afraid of the "what ifs." WHAT IF HE DOESN'T FEEL COMPLETELY THE SAME? WHAT IF HE REJECTS ME? and my biggest fears are: WHAT IF HE TELLS MY BROTHERS THAT I MADE A MOVE ON HIM? WHAT IF I DO FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM? (I don't want to be in love with someone who's gonna be screwing other girls behind my back.) WHAT IF WE DO START SOMETHING AND I END UP DEPENDING ON HIM? I have plenty of questions but I am afraid of ever finding out the results.

I don't know if this could just be a phase or is he the one I can grow something with? I mean he's seen me at my worst days possible. My bad hair days, my falls, my cries, and my fears. Sometimes I don't even care if we do start something and he is with other girls...because frankly, I don't want a relationship and everything that comes along with it. Am I infatuated with him or am falling for him? Sometimes I really like him, and sometimes I'm okay with not seeing him...........HELP!!!

To me it sounds like you're falling for him girl because no matter how hard you try you're still thinking of him and wondering where he is, what he's doing, etc.

But you can't just think with your heart. You said various times that he's a ladies' man and he enjoys being with other girls. Listen to your head. Do you really want to fall for him knowing he's going to do it to you?

It's a tough sitatuation but I think what you need to do is just get your mind off him. Maybe you feel like this because you see him so much and when you're around an attractive person ALL THE TIME, I think it'd be natural to develop a little crush. Try and take yourself out of the situation and look at it from a logical point of view. If you're going to make a move, remember what you said - that you don't want a relationship anyway. Well if that's the truth, then if you end up developing something that's not relationship (maybe just physical, if you catch my drift) then don't start getting attached. Is it possible? Yes but it's hard for females not to get attached.

I honestly think you should just stay away and try to talk to other guys and just keep it in your head that it can't be. And if it is mean to be, it'll happen NATURALLY, don't force it. Let him make the move if you like each other.

Sometimes I sit and think..this can't be what I think it is because I can't fall for him..I JUST CAN'T..it's hard for me to blow him off and not notice him..because he's just right there in front of my face..he sometimes even wants me to notice him..i'll be in my room and he goes over to see what i'm doing..he'll strike up a conversation about anything...

I seriously don't know if it's just a crush because he knows so much about me and regardless of all my flaws and everything he still accepts me...I know this is a physical thing because I don't like the way he is with girls..I don't like the way he lives his 2nd life...but I LOVE THE WAY HE DRESSES, THE WAY HE TALKS, THE WAY HE WALKS, THE WAY HE LAUGHS, THE WAY HE IS WITH ME.

I'm afraid of actually being so stupid and starting something with him.

I KNOW I SHOULD STAY AWAY FROM HIM, BUT I DO WANT SOMETHING...NOT A RELATIONSHIP..BUT I DON'T WANT TO FIND OUT LATER THAT HE'S SCREWING OTHER GIRLS...

What's a girl to do?

This post has been edited by drewsbuddie on Sep 23 2004, 08:46 AM

All guys suck fat ass.

lol ur so funny

theyre full of drama, and always wanna make you mad, and like bugging the hell outta you. except Danny, hes different..but i can see him better with my friend Laura..they both got this preppy thing going. Theyre look cute..but I LIKE HIM!!! and Laura gots a man, but hes away in college.

I hate dudes yo.

as for ME!-------- Omar is back. my ex from like 3 years ago. but its NOTHING. we just hang out everyonce in a while... make fun of each other... and stuff....

The EX is finally outta the picture!!! I have a NEW guy, who's everything I look for...it's hard for me to belive it. I'm trying hard to find something wrong w/him like I do w/every other guy...but I just can't!! SOO...I'm just gonna forget about that and ENJOY!!!

woohoo! you go matey!

Well, I haven't had a boyfriend for quite some time now, but that's ok, I just got a new girlfriend.

Falling inlove is great but if your young, just dont take it too seriously... or you'll get badly hurt!

brave of you to stick it with a girl. they drive me mad! i know, i know, i should be standing up for our side, but eh. but waay , happy anyways. i have the best guy in the world right now, although hes going through serious health problems & surgery soon =( not cool. & keita45, too right. kids get way to serious too fast when theyre young, relationships at this age are just about fun, experimentation, & younglove. not arguments & quarrels, leave that for the mid life crisis please.

edit: cause i can. nah i had something else to add to this post, but i just forgot it. damn vodka. damn russians. damn amnesia that i never got.

This post has been edited by theuglyorganist on Jun 16 2006, 04:43 PM

Oh, they drive me mad as well. Damn mood swings, lol.

Lmao, omg i was actually taking the time to skim through almost all the pages on "the guy updates" and man, i was such an immature girl. LoL, gawd was i always complaining that i was single? man, thats sad but, well it makes a big difference when you're 15 to now that i'm 18. well its been a while since i've been here and posted whats been going on with me. Well, its pretty long story, but to start off i have a wonderful boyfriend now! his name is Ruben, and gaw i think he's awesome, he's a real sweetheart, we have a lot of things in common! i couldn't ask for anything else. I met him back in our sophomore yr. in HS, we've always been good friends but, it wasn't until spring semester of our senior yr. that we started "Talking" more, we'd see eachother more often than usual, and we'd stop and chat more. About 2 weeks before school was out, i had mentioned that his brother and my cousin were going to baptize my friend's baby. So him being a smart ass was like oh cool we're god cousins kahty!!, i was like yeah ruben, whatever LoL. I invited him to a friend's party that following weekend, but unfortunately he didn't show up. He had told me thta he couldn't find it, yadad yadada ydada, i was kind of mad, but i got over it. So graduation night, he called me to hang out, and i was like ok sure! we both got super drunk that night, and we kissed. He had told me while we were dancing all drunk if i wanted to hook up! his friends kept telling him " ooo, i'm going to tell ashley" i finally got fed up with that and asked him who's ashely? he was like don't worry about it it's just a girl from work, he's like why you want to hook up? I was like what? Well he threw up, and we said our goodbyes and we took off. So i'm drunk, my cousin's buzzing, i get her cell and call him and tell him yeah i want to hook up! my cousins laughing at me, and well how we got home? we dont even know, thank God we made it safely. LoL We went to the mall that following monday, and my cuz bought shoes, since he works there, it was kinda awkward for me to see him, he's like oh i got your message but i couldn't understand you, i was like ok, i know i was drunk and i know i didn't stutter i knew he knew damn well what i said but well i was like ok whatever. He invited me to his graduation party that weekend. I didn't feel like going, but i got dragged lol, i'm glad i did because that night was when he asked me out! I was shocked, he's like since graduation night, i felt that there was a special vibe between us, i was like i feel the same way. He's like so you win the trophy, i was like what? he's like the trophy, you get to be my girlfriend i was like yay, he was all huggy dovey all night! we talked and talked, i never felt soo happy in my life. He is super sweet! i really like him very much!! He's got the most softest lips i ever kissed! OMG i absolutely love his lips!! especially the bottom one. Mmm....Damn!! all my gals are very happy that we got together, its been really great! we've now been dating for 2 weeks, and its been going GREAT! we have our space, and when we see eachother, its like we never want the night to end. Our parents dont know that were dating, although my parents know were good friends, i do plan to tell them, when i start college this agst. I know they'll like him, he's someone real special. So hopefully this relationship will last. =) wish me luck ladies!

well my GUY that I had a huge crush on...he's moved on..and I'm glad. He's doing good for himself. He's I guess you could say touring...he's a tattoo artist so now he's in denver. He went over a while back, before he left to denver. and he tried to start up a conversation...but my niece was in my room. He's so weird and so am I cause it seems like something could have been but then I know there could be no way of that. well just a thought of the day...he was just a crush that was always around so I was bound to fall for him.