Not Another Sad Love Story, just a confusing one............

Ok here goes, I have been SINGLE for about 2 months now, I had some drama with the guy I thought was going to be the ONE....well when I got back from Minnesota me and him got an APT together and lived together for about a month, things were cool, we were doing good money wise and man the night time was soo good ( man I miss that) lol anyways the week after Valentines Day we got into it all week and out of no where he decided to get back with his ex and I decided to move out and we stopped talking, I mean everything happened soooo fast.

Ok so I left the apt moved all my shit out and got a new place....I didnt talk to him for about a month, I didnt know shit about him and he didnt about me, till one day I bump into his best friend at a strip club ( I went with some guy friends and my girl, not for my viewing pleasure) anyways he goes and tells my ex and sure enough that same night around 4am, the times he leaves for work he calls my cell asking questions, he has no right asking, I DIDNT want to talk to him, so I hanged up and he called me again and I let my voicemail pickup and he played a piece of the song by Clay Walker called "Holding her but Loving you" man I cried so I called him back and he was telling me how he regrets letting me leave and how much he loves me and misses me, and he wishes he could go back and things wouldnt of got so fu ked up between us, so I tell him to get his feelings straight and maybe there is a possibility to work things out, and he says that he loves me to dead BUT cant leave her...... I DONT GET IT!!!! And since then I;ve had my share of dates and guys, friends I go chill with but I havent had sex and I'm only human I'm in need of some TLC but he makes it so hard for me to get close to anyone like that again cause I still hope and wait for him to come back, no matter how much I try to let go I cant, only cause of all the things he tells me, and I know it should be easy for us to lose communication cause theres nothing bonding us like a child for example but its hard, and the other day I went out and his friend seen me with the DJ, (a close friend of mine) and my ex went crazy calling my cell that same night and hour at the club talking mess, I finally had my friend answer the cell, he then asked me what my deal was with him and I told him that we were going out, just to piss him off and he got mad and told me never to call him back again.....WTF!!!!!!!!! I get a make-believe BF and he gewts mad and decided not to talk to me again and he moves in with his chick gets her pregnant and he thinks its OK and still wants to have say so in my love life, what is the matter with these guys now a days.....MAN girls I need advice, I know what I should do but its getting hard......HELP my queens with all the RIGHT answers....Oh yea and I heard thru the grapevine that while he's at work his chick is sneaking this guy into the APT ...should I tell him? or keep quit

Well Gurl, I think you should TELL him!!
And this is Crazy..the SAME EXACT STORY happend to my gurl best friend and my guy best friend a couple of months ago!!! Its actually pretty sad, porque we're only 15 yrs old..and he got his other bitchh pregnat and everything!! I dunno what to tell you, i had trouble tryin to advice my best friend too!! Imagine, i was in the middle of all this shitt!! Its like a damn clone, she would also try and make all jealous and he would just get sooo mad! And i was like WTF?! Outta all ppl SHE ( & you too) should be the one getting mad, i mean does he expect her (& u) to just sit there and wait como pendejas for 9 months! (well, thats what he told her, that right after the baby came out that he was gonna let her go) WELL, like i said it happend a couple of months ago..and hmm..things have progressed ever since! He DID break up w/ his other gurl, and they are NOW together! What im trying to say, that yeah it does seem stupid to just wait for sum stupid guy..but if ur anything like my friend...she kept on going back to HIM, always thinking about HIM, just wanted to be with HIM!! And hmm...she told me that she forgived him bcuz PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES...and Its only fair to give them a Second Chance..i was like... ..its kinda true..and well for them it worked out just fine!! Think about it tho!!

LoL sounds like my ex. He's sort of talking to another girl, but he still calls me every single day. But if I call him and hes with her, he starts acting like a butthead to me trying to make it seem like Im the one thats always bugging him and doesnt leave him alone. Anyway, he does the same thing...getting mad. Like I went to the Velocity Games on Thursday and he was at work. Well he called me while I was out there and he started asking me "So, who is he? Who are you with out there." I was like Boy please, I am NOT YOU. So later that night he usually has his pool tournament but I think it was cancelled or something and he ended up going out to eat with the other girl and when I called him he gave me his attitude telling me to not worry about him blah blah blah. So I said fine...I didnt call him the rest of the night and he didnt call me...until the next morning and acted like nothing had happened. Hes told me before to go out and do my own thing, but thats not what I want. Besides I know that if I were to go out and meet someone thats when he would finally decide that he wants to be with me and not the other one. When he asks me stuff like that I ask him, what would it matter if I met someone else? You have your other girl, but of course, he can never answer that. He always turns it around on me. Guys are weird. For some reason they seem to think that its ok for THEM to have someone else but YOU have to be there on the sidelines waiting. I think its in their genes now. I dunno. Id say just do your thing girl. Thats what Im starting to do. Im still going to wait for him, but Im not going to let the world stop turning just because he has a "hobby". As for you hearing about his chick having another dude at their apartment. I wouldnt tell him. Let him find out on his own that way he can see what an AZZ she made of him.

This post has been edited by ~* Princess Trisha *~ on May 24 2003, 10:56 PM

grl..i say u forget about him--he ain't worth all of it..he sounds like this guy i used to date..the guy i used to go out with..Manuel..he is still tellin' me he cares about me but at the same time he's tellin' other girls the same thing..and i thought it's kinda the same thing..but i think that you can do so much better than that guy grl!

i think weve all been in the same boat. it sucks but im sure weve all been stuck in that stupid situation. i know i have. guys are just naturally jealous ppl even tho they hate to admit it. i guess they think once were wit em, were always wit him. the way i deal wit my ex is just to let him run his mouth but let it go in ear and out the other. hes gone back and forth so many times that its pathetic. the sad part is...i stll luv him more than anything and i do miss him but i have to be strong for me and my son. i dont want him to see me cry over a stupid boy even if it is his father. if u do decide to try to work things out make him work for ur trust and affection again. my bad was that i was at his feet and he knew that. so he used it against me and a whole messy story. and he would act like a jerk if i called him just like trishas dude but if he called me than it was ok. hes playing games and u dont need it. let him decided what his feelings are and as for u, have fun no matter what he does or says. take care!

Okay well you know me gotta put my two cents in cuz only I know how you feel. Girl its like the TRIANGLE with you all over again. Man don't even sweat his behind cuz okay you know what hes going to be telling you I don't want her, but he is still going to be seeing her (remember). I know the situation is different from before, but it ain't worth being hurt all over again. We both have gone through that One time and don't deserve to go through it again. I believe if he really loves you then he would leave her to be with you. Regardless if she is pregnant she don't even know if its his. Well I say forget him and find your happiness somewheres else. At least until that baby is born and the truth is out. If its meant to be then he will come back and if you are not with someone else then maybe you can work it out, but for now I think moving on is the best thing for you. And as far as telling him No don't do it whats the point hes just going to be thinking you made it up cuz you don't like her or some shyt. I say let him find out on his own. Like we both have always said the truth will come out sooner or later. Well Good Luck and I hope you find happiness either with him or someone else, but don't let him stop you from looking cuz that one friend that is always around might be the ONE and you don't even know it cuz you are hopeing its him. Get me Okay well good luck

FLUCK HIM. AND THAT'S IT. HE WANTS THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS. HE IS HE'S GETTIN PLAYED AND HE'S THINKIN BOUT U. WHAT ELSE COULD U ASK FOR? J/K. GET OVER THE NIGGA! HE "DON'T WANT TO LEAVE HER" BUT THEN AGAIN "HE MISSES U AND LOVES U" WTF SHIT IS THAT? HOW OLD IS HE? CAN WE ACT A LITTLE MORE MATURE DUDE! GIRL BEING THE *PRINCESS* THAT I CAN BE I WOULD TELL HIM TO FLUCK OFF AND THEN TAKE HIM TO HIS APARTMENT WHERE HIS "FAITHFUL" AZZ GIRL IS WITH SOME OTHER DUDE AND SHOW HIM AND TAKE OFF....NOW WHO WOULD FEEL LIKE THE AZZ? GUYS THINK WITH THEIR WEE-WEE'S AND NOT THEIR HEAD. SORRY BUT IT'S TRUE. WHAT KIND OF FLUCKED UP SITUATION IS THIS? GIRL GET OUT OF IT BEFORE U GET INTO IT TOOOO DEEP! PEACE.

Man girl just drop it. You have so many good qualities that you've shown me in the past and you have so much to offer to someone that deserves it. This guy sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. And his chick sounds like that too. They deserve each other. You on the other hand, deserve something more. Maybe that's why you haven't found "the one" yet because there's even better out there. Keep your head up girl and move on, you don't need that drama in your life.

i'm sorry to hear that gurl...but he's soooooooooo fucking stupid!!!...if he really loves you and cares about you...he should of left that gurl he's with and gone back w/ u....what the fudge is he talking about he loves you but he can't leave her??.....that's bull shit..if you really want to be with someone that you really love and care for....you do anything in your power to get to her....meanwhil this foo is saying he can't...gurl u should move on...it's going to be hard...but you got your friends...and us "queenz" to help you out...all of us got much love for ya...good luck...

DROP HIM AND KICK HIM TO THE CURB GIRL!~